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Kitty
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Losing Harry now
« on: February 05, 2010, 07:54:02 PM »

Hi all,

I was here around October last year I think when I lost my maine coone cat georgie to a road traffic accident. It took six weeks to find his body but we laid him to rest beside his brother in our garden:(

I just got news that Harry our resuce cat of four, has FIP and only pallative care available to him. We have him home but so hard to take in after losing George:(

Harry is inappropriate up gravy off his food and drinking, but crying up to us all the time...we dont why, he does'nt seem in pain and according to the vet he is'nt but it;s heartbreaking to hear him. Please help me, what do I do and when do I know when the "time " is right??

I keep thinking he'll pull out of it, but know thats unlikely.

Any help would be appreciated and thank you.

Kitty


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Teddyb35
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2010, 10:12:52 PM »

Kitty;

So sorry to hear about Harry.

I knew when my Scoutie was in trouble. when she didn't eat or drink or use the litter box. And she hid in places that were unusual for her. If Harry's eating and drinking, the crying may be related to somthing else. I know when my Lola wants to go out and I won't let her, she cries for short periods of time - until (I guess) she realizes she's not going to get her way - while in her last days, Scoutie was dying right in front of me, and never made a sound. I wish we could all have to ability to communicate with our pets, to find out if we're doing the right things for them. It's an agonizing dilemma that never has an easy answer.

I do hope Harry gets better.
Best of Luck
Ted


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We Heal Hearts-Dakota 12/30/05

Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2010, 02:09:42 PM »

Hi, I am so sorry to hear this news. I don't know to much about cats since I have always raised dogs. My experience was much like Teds. My dog was quiet, low keyed and usually when they stop eating and drinking....there is serious reason for concern.

May I suggest you do a little research on the internet regarding FIP, I have found alot of info that my vets never knew, never told me etc. It always pays to be as informed as you can. Fears seem to grow more when we don't have a full understanding of how it can be treated. There are alot of holistic treatments available now. I would check into that. here is a link: http://www.nativeremedies.com/petalive/ I have used this company you can even write or call them for assistance.

Ted also mentioned that if we could talk to our pets and find out what they are feeling that would be wonderful. I do know some gifted people. One is a member of our Earth Angel Group. Here is her link: http://www.sheilatrecartin.com/ another friend of mine is an holistic healer you may want to consider that http://bonnieillies.com/

Sometimes we have to step out of the box and take things into our own hands of course in an informative way.

We are all here for you if you need emotional support just write to us and we will do the very best we can to help you through this.

Blessings

Rev Dee


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Deesker
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2010, 02:25:33 PM »

Hi Kitty,

I have a friend who deals with cats that have FIP. I don't know where you live but I can certainly have her call you personally to give you some advice. You can email me that information at Billeekat@aol.com

Dee


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Kitty
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2010, 07:05:47 PM »

Thank you everyone for helping me once again!

I've researched this a lot and Harry is starting an experimental treatment tomorrow for FIP, it may not work but it can;t hurt.

Dee, thank you so much but I live in Ireland:)

I'll be sure to check out the links, I dont think he's ready to go right now so will give him every chance.
I myself, fought breastcancer succesfully five years ago so want Harry to have the same chances to beat this.

Thankfully he's insured so cost is not a problem thankfully:)

Thank you all again and I'll keep you posted, he's been a wonderful friend and I don't want to lose him this soon.

Kitty xx


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Dorygirl22
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2010, 06:24:51 PM »

Dear Kitty
I am so sorry about Harry's diagnosis. I think it is wonderful that you have found a new treatment to try for him...and I will keep you and Harry in my prayers.
I don't know exactly what you meant...but my Frisky used to cry often and he too looked up at us from his bowl and cried too when he was ill. In the beginning when this started, I didn't know he was sick.
With him though he seemed not able to really eat anything much. He did drink...and he licked gravy but left the food behind. Then he'd "complain" to us. I never knew what he was trying to tell me ....but I think maybe his food didn't taste the same to him? Huh

or he was hungry but the food didn't "sit right" Huh

It's sadly always a guessing game and we can't always figure out for certain what our furbabies are trying to tell us.
I just wanted you to know I had a similiar experience...and that I will be thinking of you and Harry...and praying for good news.
Hang in there Kitty....I lost my twin boys only five weeks apart back in 2006....so I know how hard this news was on you so soon after losing Georgie.
Keep positive...and be strong.
Dory


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Kitty
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2010, 08:42:32 AM »

Thanks for your words Dory and I'm so terribly sorry you lost both kittys within such a short space of time:(

Harry is staying at the vets for a few days for iv fluid and this new treatment, the vet thinks if it's going to work at all we should see an improvement within five days. I know if this does'nt work he'll waste away and become worse very quickly which we would'nt want for him either.
I pray we don't have to make the decision for him, but a peaceful passing will be more dignified and gentle than seeing how this disease kills him.

Thank you again and I'll keep you posted.

Kitty xx


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Kitty
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #7 on: February 17, 2010, 07:52:21 PM »

Thank you all, sadly like Ted says Harry was dying in front of us by this morning so we took the awful decision to say goodbye while he was not in much pain.

Our vet was wonderful and it was peaceful, she sedated him first as per my request and he spent a happy few moments quietly purring in my arms.

We miss him so much and I'm shocked by how quickly this disease took him from us as three weeks ago Harry was a lively happy cat..

Kitty xx


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Teddyb35
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2010, 03:07:20 PM »

Kitty;

I'm very sorry to read about Harry's passing. It's stunningly brutal just how fast things can change. Scoutie was the same way, and never really found out what eventually took her life. We had taken her for a blood test to see if it was the kidney problems we thought she had overcome a couple of years prior; but within 48 hours, she was gone. The blood test came back two days after she passed, and our vet said the results looked fine. We were all at a loss.

Maybe our pets know something that we don't about living and dying. We can only hope to meet again at The Brdige and somehow be able to share that knowledge. The only solace is the good times that were shared and that Scoutie and Georgie and all our other friends will be at the Bridge to welcome Harry home.

Wishing your heart peace,
Ted


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Deesker
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #9 on: February 20, 2010, 04:58:35 PM »

Kitty,

I am so sorry for your loss. How devastating. Thank you for letting us know about Harry's passing. It just isn't fair sometimes. We question how this could happen but like Ted said, the only solace we have is to know we will see them again one day and that definitely got me through my grieving when I lost my cat E.T. Please know we're here for you and you are not alone.

With Sympathy,
Dee


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Dorygirl22
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #10 on: February 21, 2010, 08:42:21 PM »

Dear Kitty,
I'm sooo very sorry you lost Harry. I am very thankful that your vet handled everything the way you wanted it to be for Harry and yourself...and that he was able to purr in your arms before you had to part.
Remember, no matter who we lose...when we love...it is never easy to say goodbye...and so...as Ted and Dee said....we must take consolation in knowing they are not alone...they are in good company...and we need to believe...they are waiting at the Bridge.
Hang in there through these extremely sad and painful times ahead...and know that the heart DOES heal....no matter how it may be broken.
As so beautifully worded by Ted...I too wish your heart peace.


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Vicki206
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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #11 on: February 22, 2010, 07:05:32 AM »

Dear Kitty, I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about Harry. I am sorry that you had to make the agonising decision to let him go but I just wanted to say that you did absolutely the kindest thing for Harry. I had to make the same choice for my cat, and like your situation the illness struck incredibly quickly and mercilessly. In our case our little 4 yo cat went from seemingly healthy to dying within 3 days (kidney failure).

It isn't fair and, of course you know this having lost Georgie, the pain is brutal and all-consuming. But it will get better, and now Harry is not in any discomfort so this is something to console yourself with.

With all my sympathy, Vicki x


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Re: Losing Harry now
« Reply #12 on: February 22, 2010, 09:51:28 AM »

I am so very sorry for your loss, it is just too sad when we have to say good bye to our babies. There are not many words that can express the sadness. We all know how you feel and we are here for you. Every time we hear of a little one crossing over, it makes us all think of our experiences and brings back the pain we felt....we understand and we get it here at petseverlasting.com

If there is anything we can do to help you through this please write: support@petseverlasting.com. I have found that over the years just knowing that you are speaking or writing to someone who really uncerstands is a great help.

I will be thinking of you and please do not be afraid to reach out a hand....we will reach back.

Blessings to you and to that special little one Harry,

Rev. Dee


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